Like if you are stay at home parent - during the day vs when your spouse/SO is home.
Same for working out of the house parents - what do you do vs your spouse.
- to add a disclaimer here - im curious how other households divide up labor. this isnt a who is right or wrong or who does more or any thing else you could fight about. im genuinely curious to see if there is a "norm."
i hope that makes sense.|||I do most of it, unless dear husband gets a wild hair up his bum and decides to do the laundry or the dishes.
I'm not a SAHM, I'm a full-time working mom.|||I'm in charge of laundry, cooking some nights, cleaning the kitchen when I don't cook, dusting, mopping, general tidying etc.
My husband does all the repairs and stereotypical "men" stuff. We divide the cooking and cleaning of the kitchen (he is a MUCH better cook than me), he takes out the garbage, the boys help him feed the pets, he tidies up any messes I didn't get to, helps iron, etc.
My kids all have chores. For the youngest ones is just stuff like cleaning their rooms, and helping out everyone else. My eldest is in charge of cleaning the bathrooms, and the dishwasher.
Childcare is divided evenly most of the time. Because i'm not working ATM and he is, I deal with everything during the day, and he takes over more when he gets home, or after dinner.
Household chores and parenting is something we rarely argue about. After 17 years of marriage we've realized keeping it equal is important, and helps to keep everyone happy. If my husband didn't help out so much I would have gone insane by now!!!|||My husband works long days at his place of business and is on call from home in the evening. My brother is in a skilled trade which can make short days or extremely long days. Because of this it really cuts back on what they are able to contribute as far as household chores. I run my own home business which is very flexible as to when I need to work. So I can do all the chores and do work when I find time throughout the day without it being an issue.
My husband helps watch the kids in the evening as well as rotates taking the garbage to the curb once a week with my brother. He is also in charge of taking out the kitchen scraps. My son (3yrs) is in charge of taking out the garbage for me. He loves to clean and help so that's his task. As for me I do everything else that's left over from taking care of the garden, watching the kids, keeping the garage organized, cleaning the house, household repairs, and doing the laundry. =)|||There is no concrete division of duties around here, such as I do all of the cooking, he does all of the yardwork, etc. We just help each other out as needed. If I need help or want his help because I'm feeling overwhelmed and overworked, I simply ask politely for his help.
Since he works 50+ hours a week and I'm home 24-7, it's safe to say that I do take on the brunt of the housework and childcare. When he is home, he's happy to help where he's needed, but I understand his need for downtime also. He's willing to fix meals, change diapers, sweep and mop floors, vacuum, do laundry, do yardwork, take out the trash, put kids to bed, give them their baths, help them with brushing teeth, etc., but I need to ask or he just doesn't realize the help is needed.
A list works best for him, if I need him to do certain things when he's home. Then I give him the list, he gets it done on his own time and in his own way. That eliminates any sort of conflict over household duties because he knows exactly what I need him to do and I know that he'll get it done.|||We're both really good at looking around and seeing what needs to be done. And I think that's part of why we never fight. We don't divide many chores, except there's a couple things he hates doing, and a couple things that I hate doing. So we're considerate of that. I'll do all laundry as long as he washes the floors. We both do dinner, the lawn, tubs for the kids, vaccumming, monitoring homework, and most other household jobs. We have the same goal and that is to sit down at the end of the day and say "ahhhh!"|||I work during the school year and stay at home during the summer.
During the summer, I basically am the main housekeeper. My husband may set the table, or do a little picking up, etc., but I do most of it. During the school year, I'd say he does more housekeeping than I do. We share child rearing duties, but my youngest is 6 now, so there's no more diapering or bathing.
Oh, I help more with homework and I teach my children during the summer.|||I work 0730-1630 M-F in an admin position for the military, I also attend school from 1845-2130 T and Th. During the week I take out the garbage from time to time, I walk the dog, I do small clean up throughout the house and the dishes from time to time. My husband does the same thing throughout the week. He stays home with my daughter and does almost all laundry (but I fold it when I get home.) He vacuums on Wed and I vacuum and mop on Sat. Do I think the balance is really fair? NO, but he doesn't clean to my standards. When I'm done cleaning the floor you could eat off it, when he's done there's still dust in the corners. I've accepted this (and told him he needs to get a job or he's going to make me crazy.)|||Hah. Hah. Hah.
We both WoH full-time and DD goes to school.
I do the cooking, laundry, cleaning [not a lot of that -- housekeeper of the year I am not], chauferring DD to her activities, dishes, most pet care, etc.
DD sets the table for dinner, changes the catbox, puts groceries away, and helps with the dishes and cooking.
Hubby --- mows the lawn and puts the trash out once a week. And does occassional repair/maintainance as needed. (And yes, we fight about it -- mostly him complaining that I dont' keep the house clean enough.)
(DD is a teenager so there isn't much 'child care' anymore. When she was a baby and I was a SaH mom, he actually did a lot of childcare while he was home in the evenings/weekends. I breastfed so he couldn't feed her, but he helped with diapers, baths, played with her, etc.|||When my husband was working, I was a stay at home mom and I did everything except on the week ends, then he took care of our son and I took care of the house/cooking. I had no issue with this because that was my "job".
Now that my hubby has been laid off, he does everything!! LOL It is more because I am pregnant and SO tired, but it is nice that he caters to my every need. He is so good with our son. The only thing I really do any more is cook! He cleans the house and does most of everything for our little boy.|||I have just worked about 18 hours in the past two days...my SO has cleaned the entire apartment and taken care of the kids in those two days...there is some laundry that still needs to be done but that is an every day occurance in this household...
When we are both working then he will feed and take care of the animals in the morning, and also the children most of the time, he will also put laundry into the washer and dryer downstairs when he's working out and then bring it back up....we come home and sweep the floors, do dishes and take care of folding laundry before going to bed or settling down for the night.|||Family of 4. Children are 8 years and 15 month old.
I work part time and Hubby works full time. Since I get to be home more it only make sense that I have more duties.
I am the only cook in the house. I mainly care for our 15 month old since she is very attached to me right now. My Hubby mainly cares for our 8 year old since it is easier for him to handle because our little one doesn't want to be around her daddy much. She gets fussy with others but not so much with me. I mainly cook and clean the house. Hubby does the laundry while I put the clothes away when it's all nice and clean. He does the ironing since I suck at it. :D He takes the trash out everyday.
Some days our duties are even some days it isn't. Mainly I have more duties because I just do it better than he does and he knows it too.|||We have a 5 year old and an 11 week old. I have always worked until I just had this last baby and I will be staying home for 4 months.
We have pretty much kept our duties the same as when I was home and working.
Me: cook meals, get kids ready in the morning, clean house, change diapers, laundry,
hubby: dishes, weekend meals, hang up clothes, bathtime for both kids, trash,|||I'm a stay at home mum with three children and my husband works 12 hour shifts, alternate days and nights each week. For those reasons, I do all the housework, garden, childcare, small DIY jobs, shopping, pets, extra activites with the kids etc.
He feeds and walks the dogs if he is around when it is time to do it, and he will also bring the boys to their sports practises if he is at home. Other than that, he is allergic to the vacuum cleaner (in 18 years, he has used it once, and on that occasion he broke it!) and doesn't get the concept of tidying as you go. Oh well....sigh!|||My husband and I both work full time: well I am off in the summer. My husband travels a lot with his work, so in most cases I do most of the housework. My three daughters are still young, but they each have some chores they are expected to do, and it helps things go more smoothly. My husband is great, and when he is home he does all the yard work and does help with the washing of clothes. I always do the cleaning, becasue I am a neat freak lol. If he does it I always go back and redo it, I just can't help it :). I cook while he is not home, but when he is home it is something he enjoys doing, so he does it. Washing the dishes is one of the chores my daughters have. We have a good system|||I cook, he washes dishes. I wipe down countertops and mop, he sweeps. I dust, he vacuums. I do most of the laundry, he helps. He mows the lawn, I do the edging/ gardening. I give baths, read stories, he wrestles and helps get them to sleep. I have to be at work ealier than he does and before daycare opens so I get things ready for him in the evening and he does it all in the morning.
These aren't set in stone or written rules, just things I've noticed. We work well together for the most part.|||what i can get done during the day is my job. when we're both home, it's 50-50. since he has skills that i don't (that man can fix anything and i have to think to myself "righty-tighty") there's some natural division of labor. but otherwise when we're both here, we're both doing childcare and other tasks that need doing.
and i've always been astonished by marriages where it works differently.|||I am not a cook - but my husband loves it so he does all of the meals that require cooking - dinner/supper %26amp; large breakfasts. We both take turns buying groceries. I do all the laundry. He cleans the bathrooms. I help the children with school work %26amp; see to their social needs. He teaches them hunting %26amp; fishing %26amp; tenting (survival skills!!). We both work full time %26amp; have two dogs that we share responsibilities for. Works for us!|||I stay home with the kids while my husband works. I take care of the kids , feed them, bath them, cook, clean, and do all the other household duties. He only works 4 days a week, so when he's home its his turn for most of the stuff we do.|||Bella- Picks up her toys and cleans up her messes
Mommy- Everything else|||I do it now just like I did it when we were both working. We have different standards so if I want it done I do it.|||I do it all, but that's okay....|||I am not happy about it at all, but I do 95% of the work around the house and taking care of the kids. Hubby does a load of laundry like every 6 months and thinks he should get a freakin award. I cannot remember the last time he loaded the dishwasher--I am not sure he knows what button to push to turn it on. His idea of cooking is to have me pick the restaurant and he pays ( with my debit card-joint account). He does work 40 hours a week and is involved in boy scouts, and is starting a new business ( that he has been working on for a year. last year we had a 5k loss on our taxes), however I:
*do all the vaccuming, laundry, cooking ,shopping, bill paying
* manage HIS prescriptions including monitoring when HE is running low
* manage the 4 prescritions for our autistic 13 year old
* manage all the educational stuff ( placement, IEP, re-entry meetings, etc) for the same child.
* manage doctor/therapy appointments, including attending said appointments. Hubby never met the first psychiatrist, met the second one 2x, and has not met the 3rd one yet. He has met the behavior specialist 2x---and one of them was at our house.
* manage and attend speech therapy for our 3 year old. he has been in therapy for 16 months and hubby has never met the therapist.
* make sure the kids actually get a bath more than once a week ( but it is tuesday, didn't they just have a bath? sure....on SUNDAY)
All I ask of hubby is that he
*clean the turtle tank reasonably often ( more often than every 6 months)
* take the trash out when it is full
* do the maintenance on the vehicles ( fluid levels, oil changes, tire pressure/replacement, etc)
* occasionally watch the kids so I can have time with my friends....dinner and a drink or two .|||Naturally since I am the stay at home parent I DO take on more of the responsibilities (and gladly so). My husband works hard all day long to provide for the family. The least I can do to show my gratitude is to take care of what he, by God's grace, has provided for me.
I take care of the kids while he provides for the family, but he does give me my breaks. Just this last Saturday he watched the kids while I went to meet my mom for breakfast and some shopping.
But he does pitch in a lot. He trades nights of dish duty with me, he does some laundry, he takes out the trash and he does the "hard chores": bathing the dog, mowing the lawn, weed eating, cleaning the showers (yes he does the showers, lol. the fumes from the cleaning stuff is just too much for me!).
We share the duties in caring for the house, but I do take on more of them most of the time.
My kids on the other hand have simple tasks. My 3 year old is required to pick up after himself, clean his room, take his plate to the sink and put away his shoes (he chose that one). My 1 year old doesn't do much yet, but she has started to pitch in when it's time to clean up toys for the evening. She copies her big brother, it's so sweet :)
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